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We have always been taught that carrying our hearts in our sleeves will get us in trouble and that expressing emotions is a sign of weakness. Honestly, none of it is true. As humans we are bound to feel but holding everything in may not be as helpful as it sounds. Over the years, we have learned to keep our feelings in check, not to let the other person know what is happening and how deeply we truly feel some things. On the other hand, some of us become so dependent on our loved ones that our existence seems out of the question without them.
May it be a relationship or the passing of our loved one, the grief, the attachment that we felt makes us unable to move on and we feel so much pain that we think we’ll die because of it.
Therefore, emotions should be dealt with carefully. They should neither be subdued to the point where we burst nor should they be given full reign that overpower us.
The above-drawn image gives us a reference regarding the approximate range required for our emotions to feel balanced and help us strive. Anything below 4 or above 6 is bound to cause damage to not only us but those around us. 4-6 is a very fair range of emotions that help and guide us through life. It is important to note here that not many have been able to accept this state as they feel that this range is “quite normal” offering only an ordinary state of mind and not a pinch of peak excitement one usually seeks.
Now when we come to think of it, we need to understand what role can detachment play when thinking about emotions.
As stated earlier, emotions are supposed to be in a range where they are neither underwhelming nor overwhelming but many times we are so affected by them that our life turns upside down. As some of us feel deeply and are often too attached, we are not able to let go. The art of detachment is such that teaches us how very crucial it is at one time to just let everything be to solely focus on self for a while.
Detachment ensures that we are safe and secure and do not get overthrown by a range of varying emotions. In many situations where we are keenly involved, we let other people and their actions affect us so much that we are not able to function normally. In situations like these detachment plays a very vital role. We all agree that caring for our loved one, breaking up with someone or losing your family can be overwhelming but what we need to understand is that after a while, we need to start looking out for ourselves. We can not get lost in emotions and neglect our well-being. This is something that we all need to work on consciously.
We all need to see, think and believe that before choosing anyone else, it is a must that we choose ourselves.
